Let me start with the health warning – some people may not like this post and be a bit annoyed with my thoughts! If this is you, let’s start the dialogue, I would love to know your thoughts.
We have been travelling for nearly 4 months and as one would expect Urvi and I have regularly discussed what we feel about a place or how it compares to others places we have been. However I have started to form the opinion that because our major reference point is India, this sometimes clouds/impacts on our ability to appreciate things or observe places and communities. I don’t think that we can avoid this as the reference point is not going to change and nor should it, but I do think that we should be careful about it.
I’ll illustrate with a few examples;
Tokyo is reputed to be one of the most hectic places in the world, and I think it is, however because of the amazing infrastructure planning and the nature of the Japanese people the city flows smoothly despite the crowds. We arrived kind of looking forward to being blown away by the crowds and the mass of people, and came away being ‘underwhelmed’ at the relative normality of the place. This was because we compared it to Mumbai and the general manic feel you get with having over 1 billion people in the country! So I am not sure whether it was fair or not to come to the conclusion we did. On the other hand we met a few people from Europe before arriving in Tokyo and they were still in shock at “how busy and overcrowded they felt Tokyo was”. The point I am making is it is tough to park our reference points and see things just for what they are, but often I am not sure we do anything about.
We have sometimes lost the enormity of the history of some of the places we have been because I feel that we get caught up in the immediate state the place is in, this is a very Indian trait – the ‘what is there to see there now’ culture. It maybe just a city, and possibly a fairly bland one, but in the context of the world, and its history there is often major value. I think this happened in Saigon, where everything just made us feel that we were in a large Indian city. Maybe so, but the history of that place is what one should be bowled over by, not the high risers or malls.
Don’t get me wrong, I think that there are positives to our outlook, for example being about to get over the face of poverty as being ones overriding opinion of a place (and to see the actual beauty of the place and people). All too often people are unable to get that culture shock out of their heads and miss the rest of the experience, I don’t think we have that problem, as things are indeed the same and in many ways worse in India, it does not shock us so much.
The biggest thing for me (maybe we find this mainly with Asia, as there are so many perceived similarities and cultural connections) is that there are lots of little examples where I personally have admired other traveller’s innocence when experiencing things – sleeper trains, drinking coconut water, tuk tuks, crossing the road when you have 10,000 scooters aiming for you (!). These are all things we take for granted cos we have seen it, done it and bought the t-shirt. Again no way of getting over it but I am just intrigued by this. I love the newness of the experiences. I think this is why Japan was such a success for us, because it is so different in every way. I went to Japan a little bit like a kid, wide eyed and struggling to absorb everything. This is not an assessment on how ‘good’ or ‘better’ one place is to another, rather an illustration of that sense of innocence that I think is important to travel with – even if it is the same as back home, it is not the same and therefore we should approach things with a new eye.
We run the risk of falling into the ‘goodness gracious me’ (UK comedy about Indians) complex, that EVERYTHING is either Indian, made in India, invented in India or is better in India! In the show it even goes to the stage where India has the poorest people and this is some kind of status. Of course this is a comedy and is just for laughs, but is there some truth in stereotypes on which the humour is based, I think so. The whole ‘Buddhist world is Indian’, Tuk Tuks – Indian, Katsu Curry (dish with a totally Japanese history) – must be Indian, the whole of Thailand is Indian, and Malaysia/Singapore and Hong Kong are States in India! You get my point...
One thing is really clear, once you have lived/travelled or even transited through India EVERYWHERE else is easy, and maybe sometimes becomes underwhelming. We have met many people who concur with this thought. India is a tough travelling experience for new travellers, so once they conquer the sub continent, everywhere else must seem like a breeze. Maybe that’s what is happening to us. Maybe India has given us a good grounding for travel and generally being streetwise?
So it is a good thing or not, I don’t think there is an answer to that. I know it is a thing though! I do feel fortunate to have an India reference point, and this does help in other ways too (see below), but I think we must also maintain a conscious sense of respect for the new place that we are trying to experience, without it why are we doing this trip, and without it, we might as well have taken 17months off and gone to Las Vegas, where you can see the Eiffel tower, Venice and the pyramids all in one street.... the world is different, there are many shades, much looks the same, but it isn’t, and just because something is “just like India” doesn’t mean it should lose its identity in our minds...
Some lighter thoughts on why it is good to be Indian while travelling –
- You can speak a language that most people have never heard, which helps when you want to bargain with people, but can’t agree a price between you! Or when you want to comment on the horrible t-shirt someone on the bus is wearing
- Most people think you are not a proper tourist, so leave you alone on the ‘buy from me, I give you good price’ front
- You come top of the ‘bargaining with people’ league and will fight for the last 2,000 VND (8p). Although in this case urvi is NOT INDIAN! She will be offered a shirt for 1000 and bargain the guy up to 1500!
- You don’t take any rubbish from taxi drivers who try and fleece you
- Asian toilets are not a challenge (well they are for me!)
- The heat is easy to deal with (If I have AC)
- Overnight sleeper trains are nothing new or tough to manage, and you easily fight with people for luggage space
- You never have to worry about queues for anything, just push in like the rest of them – feels like being at home!
Conclusion – one can’t and shouldn’t change ones cultural heritage, but a trip around the world is exactly that, a trip to the countries of the world, I would like to see and experience things for what they are and not how they compare to India. The only losers in this will be us.